HERE ARE SOME FEW WARNINGS DURING APPROACHING!!

If you approach a woman who is with her friends, be prepared to impress the entire group.


If you get rejected in public, don't react negatively, just smile at her and leave.

Do not act perverted around her. It is extremely unlikely that she will think it is funny. (While there may be some girls who will be amused by this, there is always the possibility that she is only pretending to laugh to be polite.)

Don't rush to tell her that you love her, take things slowly.

After getting the entire bunch of her friends impressed. Sideline the one you really want to talk to and ask her friends for permission to steal her for a while. Then ask her if she would mind walking with you.

.....TO BE CONTINUED!!!

....Ten Reasons Why Sex Should Wait Until Marriage!!!

1.  Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly. Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.
   
2. Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life.
3. The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside of the bonds of marriage. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome) factors undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most especially for women.
   
4. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage. Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way.
5. Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure.
6. Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.
7. The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage.
8. Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences.
9. Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care.
   
10.  If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.

True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital sex. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best place of all - the love nest of marriage.

#HERE ARE IMPORTANT TIPS FOR MEN TO CONSIDER WHEN THEY APPROACHING WOMEN!!#

#TAKE THEM VERY SERIOUSLY#
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Hygiene is important. Wash, brush your teeth, clean your ears, cut your nails, and pluck those hairs out of your nose. Women notice every flaw so remedy them all.

Approach a woman you find attractive. Some won't be interested, but that's okay. Eventually, you will find a woman who you get along great with and then you will forget all about the women who weren't interested.

Dress well. First impressions are important. And the clothes you wear says a lot about what type of guy you are.

Don't be cheap. If things progress far enough, pay for her drinks, dinner, and her taxi ride home. If she insists on paying her own way, say something like this: "I will get this one, you pay next time." However, if she seems truly intent on paying, don't push back too much. Simply say that you'll pay the next time. Hint: this is a good way to ascertain the possibility of a second date.

Be intelligent to understand her concepts of the conversation.
Avoid sports when you're just approaching women; they're probably not interested.

Ask your sister and mother for advice. They are women, after all. No doubt they'll have some advice for you.

You can wink at her when you first see her, if you'd like.
Know a girl your buddy has connections to? Have him let her know she's on your mind and want to meet.

Honestly, just consider being yourself. Especially the first time you meet. You don't want to end up having her wanting you to be the fake image she first met. She'll be confused and wonder whether you're fake or two-faced. As a matter of fact, when you're being yourself, your confidence and self esteem will take over automatically, making the atmosphere smooth and easy for you.

(SIO ULE UTARATIBU WA WAWAPENDWA WA KUOMBA BADALA YA KU-APPROACH...eti..BABA NAZUNGUSHA MOTO,NAZUNGUSHA MOTO BABA....NENDA UKA-SEME NDUGU UJUE HATMA YAKO, wenzako wanapeleka maua na zawadi,out na maombi juu,wewe unaomba tu)

THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN "LOVE" AND "SEX"!!

....Are you tired of relationships that don’t work? Do you long to find that special person you can really connect with and have that sexual intimacy you’ve always dreamed about? It is possible!

God has a plan for relationships and believe it or not, He even has a plan for sexual intimacy. 

The key to experiencing His plan is to first know the difference between love and sex.  Many people confuse one for the other -- but make no mistake, these two things are very different. 

Real love is not sex! It is a commitment.

The Bible teaches that sex is an incredible gift of intimacy we receive inside the boundaries of love. It’s a gift that should only be opened at the right time, with the right person and in the right way. But if we don’t, we actually reduce our capacity for love and intimacy.

In the book of Ephesians, the Apostle Paul, filled with the Holy Spirit, gives us some information about love and sex that is clear and profound. He writes, “ Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” (Eph 5:1-2)

As Christians, we are to “walk in the way of love.” This means if we truly love, then we are characterized by being giving, caring, sacrificial and unselfish toward others. Most of us want to be in a relationship like this!

“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.” (Eph. 5:3-4)

Next, Paul explains that the opposite of walking in love is when we exploit one another and cheapen, defraud or substitute genuine love and authentic intimacy for sexual activity. He also warns us to abstain from “foolish talk” and “coarse joking.” Therefore, we must be aware that even our speech and our thoughts can lead to sexual impurity.

So, what do we do if we’ve already blown it? First, we can be certain that God is far from being down on us. God’s love doesn’t change because we’ve sinned. There are consequences for our behavior, but He loves us the same. Second, no matter what you have done in your past, it is never too late to turn around and pursue purity – with your thoughts, speech and behavior. Forgiveness and restoration is available.

Remember, God is not against sex, nor is He out to punish us or restrict us. God’s heart is that of a loving, heavenly father who wants to protect His children. And He knows that sex without commitment will cause us to experience emotional pain and a lack of fulfillment in our relationships.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!

UKIPENDA KAMA NA WEWE UNAPENDA KWELI BASI PENDEKA!!!

#HII NI ZAIDI YA MUHIMU>>>
Mambo ya mahusiano yana changamoto zake,zipo zisizokwepeka kirahisi kutokana na utofauti wa makuzi na uelewa lakini nyingi ni kutokana na ujinga tu wa wahusika,aitha kwa kujua ama kutokujua ama kwa kugoma kujua...leo nina jambo moja toka moyoni mwangu,na yamkini hata wewe linakugusa sana!

.....IKITOKEA MTU(HUSUSANI KIJANA WA KIUME) AMEKUPENDA AU AMEKUONYESHA HISIA ZA UPENDO AMA AMEKUOMBA URAFIKI/UCHUMBA WEWE BINTI/MSICHANA AKIWA NA NIA THABITI YA KUKUOA NA KWA HAKIKA UMEELEWA KUWA ANAMAANISHA NA BADO UNAMFANYIA VITUKO,MBWEMBWE,MATESO NA USUMBUFU USIO NA MSINGI,HALI MOYONI MWAKO UNAJUA KABISA NI MUDA WAKO WA KUOLEWA NA HAKUNA KIJANA MWINGINE ALIYEMAANISHA KAMA HUYO NA INASHANGAZA KUONA SABABU ZINAZOKUKWAMISHA KUAMUA HARAKA NI LABDA KAZI,MUONEKANO AMA HANA GARI YA KUTEMBELEA....CHUNGA SANA,MAANA UVUMILIVU UNA KIKOMO,USIJE UKAJIONA KAMA WEWE NDIO KILA KITU DUNIANI NA HUYO HAWEZI KUPATA MWINGINE,NI USHAURI WANGU TU KWAKO KUSOMA VEMA NYAKATI,USIJE UKASHANGAA MSIMU WAKO UMEPITA NA UKABAKI NA MAUMIVU!!
#NA JAMBO LA MUHIMU,SEMA UKWELI WAKO KWAKE KAMA HUMPENDI AJUE ANATAFUTA KWINGINE NA SIO KUMWEKA PENDING ILI UENDELEE KU-COMPARE HUYU NA YULE!!

Angalia SUBIRA YAKO ISIJE KUKUPONZA na usije kataa PIPI kwa karanga za kuonja!!
AHSANTE SANA,NI HILO TU KWA LEO!!